Quitting My 9-5 To Live A More Intentional Life
When I woke up the day I quit my job, I had no idea that I would be putting in my notice. It was my first day back after my step-brother's funeral, and I was ready to jump back into work in an attempt to distract myself from the heartache and grief I was drowning in. But that morning I decided that I couldn’t do it one more day. Thinking I was making a rash decision because of my grief, my boss kindly suggested I take some more time off instead. But the truth was, I had been thinking about quitting for months, it was just now I had this sudden urgency I hadn’t had before. The loss of two brothers in the span of a year had this direct and earth-shaking way of making me aware of how short life is. I felt more alert to the fact that my life was whizzing by me, and I wasn’t doing anything that had real meaning to me.
One is reminded, at a level deeper than all words, how making a living and making a life sometimes point in opposite directions. - Pico Iyer
In the months, and years, following, I started to advocate for living a more intentional life. I was feeling empowered, and I wanted others to feel that way too - without having to face mortality first. I received an overwhelming amount of support. But also a lot of resistance. I heard things like:
"You have savings, most people can't afford to quit their job."
"You have a supportive spouse with a stable income." "You no longer have student loans."
Fortunately, I was in a position where I had some resources that would make quitting easier. That being said, I had those same resources months prior and I still couldn’t do it because the one thing that was holding me back was FEAR.
FEAR of being dependent of my husband.
FEAR of not knowing where my next pay check would come from.
FEAR of people judging me.
And to be completely honest, all of the things I was scared of did happen - for a little while. But, after I quit, it didn’t matter anymore because I had my life back. I was able to access my passion and creativity again to figure out what I was going to do next. It wasn’t until later that I realized all these fears were based around a story that I had told myself about success.
I was not successful if my husband was supporting me.
I was not successful if I didn’t make a lot of money.
I was not successful because I was doing the opposite of what others told me success was.
Eventually I was able to change my story about what success is - which is simply living a life where I go after the things I want. My unemployment gave me time to explore the things I was really passionate about. Not to mention, the much needed space to begin working through my grief.
I took on all the chores at home so that when my husband got home from work he wouldn’t have to. As a result, we both had more time and energy to start working towards creating a life that we were really psyched about. Over time I saw how much better this was for both of us, how much more enjoyable our lives were becoming.
This one decision acted as a catalyst for everything that has happened since then. That summer we decided to start saving and complete our dream of taking a year off to travel across the Americas by motorcycle. The following year, inspired by my newfound happiness and freedom, my husband decided to quit his job and we opened a business together - knowing full well we would be leaving in a year to go travel. A year after that, our dream of driving across the Americas became a reality. And today, we are still living out that dream.
A satisfied life is better than a successful life. Because our success is measured by others, but our satisfaction is measured by our own soul, mind & heart. - Unknown
Some of you might be reading this and thinking,“Well, that is great for you, but I don't have a spouse to support me or have any money saved.” Do I think you should go out and quit your job today? With the exception of a toxic job or one that depletes you - NO. I am just asking you to be open to the idea that there could be another story, another way - and try it. It is a mindset. You have to go from wanting to change your life, to deciding to change your life.
Maybe you will have to work the job you don't love and save your passionate work for the evenings and weekends, until you can transition it into full time. Or, maybe you like your job but you aren’t reaching your full potential, so you give up the security and comfort of working for someone else, and invest in yourself. Or, it could be as simple as working extra hours (or spending less) in order to pay down your debt so you can start focusing on the next thing.
Decisions not conditions determine my life. - Tony Robbins
Regardless of your present circumstance, you not only have to believe you can, but you are also going to have to work for it. Google isn’t going to be able to tell you how to do it. This is one of those things that you are going to have figure out yourself, at your own pace, and when it feels right for you. Little decisions and little actions over time will lead you one step closer to where you want to be. Figure out what they are - because they will look different for everyone - and do what you can do today. And then have the courage, trust, and faith to take the leap when it comes.
Nothing is impossible, the word itself says “I’m possible. - Audrey Hepburn
Hello! My name is Kira. I am a full-time creator and seeker. I crave wildness and having grand adventures. I feel most deeply myself in the mountains, under the sky, and by the water….but not in it, because I am still working on overcoming my fear of water.
I am highly sensitive and it took me a long time to stop apologizing for it. I am an organizer, card sender, storyteller, and a little bit of a hippie. I like to be in control, too much, and I’m still working on letting that go. I am a voracious reader, compulsive notetaker, & clumsy AF. The only time someone turns to watch me go by is when I am hurtling past them as I fall down the stairs. I am committed to my husband, being a good human & expansion.
For the past 3 years I have documented my explorations on our blog adventurehaks.com; as a way to inspire, share, and connect with others. In this current season of our life, my husband and I are living off an adventure motorcycle as we travel across Central & South America.