Steady As She Goes: Part Three
Everyone has good and bad moments in their life, which is why it is so important to revel in the happy times and voice your appreciation for what you do have. I am working on taking my own advice, but I have still been feeling discouraged with myself because the me of high school just assumed I’d be a big success.
From an outside perspective, I could be seen as one. Success is subjective though, and instead of being satisfied with making a good income that allows me to live the lifestyle I want, there is this sort of drowning feeling that I am not going down the path that I should be.
Success to me means working hard at something that you genuinely care about. The dream is to have a job that doesn’t feel like work right?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about starting a side hustle, and so in my typical fashion, I have to be well informed first. I am someone who will research things in excess. All the things I have been reading say that I need to stop spending my precious time reading and planning and start taking action. As I write that sentence I think well obviously that is the only way to get things done but for whatever reason, it is harder than it sounds.
Recently my sister and I created vision boards. When we finished assembling the boards we presented them to each other to voice our future desires. It was very empowering to basically say all at once the things you are striving for or want to give more attention to.
I have all these goals and wants in life but I get frustrated with myself for not having them already.
My other half is baffled by me sometimes and has to remind me more often then he would like to that progress takes time. A vision board is great, but if you don’t do anything to make the vision a reality it is just a collage. Me and perhaps most of our generation just want everything so instantly. I was raised to believe that I could do anything if I worked hard enough for it, but somewhere along the line, I have lost my discipline, that extra oomph that it takes to be committed.
Often I find myself thinking of the people I admire and wondering what their journey was, what did they do to get to where they are today. The answer is they went for it, and they kept going.
Try, try and try again, until it feels right, and I do believe it is a feeling.
There isn't really an end game, it is continual work to maintain the feeling, but once you find it and know that it is possible I think something changes in you. The fear is dampened, and it opens up this space for new goals and new achievements that at a previous point you hadn’t even considered. I will get there, and you can too. Believing it is the first step, and after that, it is all taking action, so get to work!
One of my favorite quotes is from Rocky, “Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward.”
Start doing, and don’t stop until you get to where you want to be.
If you are not happy, start making changes, you are the only person standing in your way. This is all stuff you may have heard before but sometimes it takes someone else saying it to you for it to sink in.
- Christine Mould