The Disappearing Act: It's About High Hopes, Not High Walls

 

I can not be the only person who thinks that there is no bliss in ignorance.  

I NEED TO KNOW EVERYTHING.  

I want to know details people, DETAILS. When someone makes a decision that affects my life without allowing me to take part in it, I get pissed off.  

That is what ghosting feels like, people making choices that affect our lives without giving us a say.  This is why ghosting is not only annoying but painful. The aftermath of getting ghosted can be messy. The good part about the mess is that we can clean it up.

The hard part is when we are stuck cleaning up after people who have no respect for our time or feelings. This can create a lot of negative emotions towards the opposite sex.

When we get ghosted it leaves a LOT of questions and gives us zero closure.

Sometimes ghosting is not the worst thing to happen… However, say a person does not feel a connection... so they assume it's no big deal to just blow this one time date.

However, THEY DON’T KNOW HOW THE OTHER PERSON FEELS.

Without communication, people do not know that the other person on this date might have felt a connection. Leaving someone high and dry is insanely selfish. When we are left alone to wonder why someone has ghosted us, our overthinking brains can take us to some WILD places. 

At the end of the day, it makes us more cautious. We can put up higher walls, we don’t want to let people in.

We’re scared they are just going to leave, without so much as a goodbye. We blame ourselves, we question our worthiness, we doubt our womanhood, we trust people less. It’s not pretty what can happen when our feelings are disregarded.

However, at the end of the day, no one want’s to be with someone who does not know how to communicate.

In some ways, we are dodging a bullet.

We can’t stop people from hurting us, ever, it’s a fact of life. It’s not fun to get ghosted, however, we can’t hold onto the negative feelings and question ourselves forever. We are strong independent women and we can accept the truth and move onto bigger and better things.  

How have you reacted to being ghosted? Has ghosting ever made you question yourself? How do you move on from being ghosted?  Do you think about confronting the person who has ghosted you? 

Hope you enjoyed reading this series on Ghosting and relationships. I would love to stay connected with you, so feel free to connect with me on social media. 

- Lyndsay Grace