Grace Baby Girl: Grace In Relationships

 

For me, giving grace to other people has always been easier than giving grace to myself. 

For some reason I'm always able to overlook the “not-so-great” qualities and somebody else - and see right past all of the things that they may have done or said to hurt me...and give them the benefit of the doubt.

But I also know that's not how everybody operates and that for some people - giving Grace in relationships can be one of the hardest things to do. 

When our expectations of other people are super high we EXPECT them to act the way we would act OR act in a certain manner. We want to think that maybe, in some way, we have control of their actions.

Here's the thing, people are people. Humans are humans. 

The only perfect human to ever walk the earth was our homeboy Jesus and I don't know about you - but I am certainly not even close to being as perfect as Jesus is. And neither is anybody else that I've ever met. 

US EARTH DWELLING HUMANS MAKE MISTAKES. 

Don't get me wrong, girlfriend - I'm not always wonderful at giving grace out freely in my relationships. 

When a co-worker/friend/family member does something that hurts my feelings - I know that sometimes I can hold on the memory of the wrongdoing and harbor it for days, weeks even months sometimes. 

I will hold onto a grudge so that I can feel the quick "gratification" of self-righteousness and be able to "hold it over their head" later down the line - probably at a time when it’s ME that needs grace the most. 

People are messy. People will let you down. People can be angry. People can lie. People can break your trust and break your heart. 

Grace is the antidote. Grace is the unmerited favor. 

And I don't know about you but there have been plenty of times in my life where I absolutely needed some unmerited favor because I screwed up...big-time. 

If I so badly want other people to give me grace in those times, then why would I withhold it from the people that I LOVE or people that I CARE about during the times that they need grace the most too?

Giving Grace in relationships - it ain't easy in the moment...but GRACE HEALS. And it makes DOING LIFE together a heck of a lot easier in the long haul. 

- Cherisse Redmond